The following words - written by an Anglican bishop in the 11th century – were found in the crypts of Westminster Abbey…

“When I was young and free my imagination had no limits, I dreamed of changing the world. As I grew older and wiser, I discovered the world would not change, so I shortened my sights somewhat and decided to change only my country. But it, too, seemed immovable. As I grew in my twilight years, in one last desperate attempt, I settled for changing only my family, those closest to me, but alas, they would have none of it. And now as I lie on my deathbed, I suddenly realized: If I had only changed my self first, then by example I would have changed my family. From their inspiration and encouragement, I would then have been able to better my country and, who knows, I may have even changed my world.”

Looking in the mirror of truth is good advice. One of the basic truths in life: The only one you can change is you and by changing yourself, you have the greatest impact on others. Quit trying to “fix” others and work on being the best you can be. It requires the least amount of energy and is the most cost effective investment that you will ever make.

And remember, it’s all about the relationship.